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Monday, December 30, 2013

Narcissists and our Future

Narcissists and our Future

Again Dr. Vaknin delves into the depths of what Narcissism can mean to our society. Straight from the horses mouth. Yes Sam is an N. But not unlike all other Ns - he speaks to us from his mind. And his mind works a little differently from the rest of ours. Sometimes that can be very enlightening. so, here is my question: What kind of a future does humanity have?

http://youtu.be/xNwJ6tdGzsA

To see more earlier articles in this Blog, click "2013" under the Archives over on the right.

Stealth Narcissist

Some hope they will find their soulmate in this New Year - but BEWARE of ones like these, They are out there! They may fool you into thinking that you have found the mate of your dreams. In reality - they will become your nightmare and you will become another of their victims. While they are with you, they will be seareching for their next victim .... It could be your friend! I will continue to showcase the work of others who tell it better than I can. Because I find writing about these horrible creatures to be very distastefull as well as depressing.


I feel that this is the most dangerous kind of N. They learn their tactics all throughout their lives and they only get worse with age. There is NO CURE - only therapy will help. The stealthy ones speak with a forked tongue. They are hypocrites. They will fornicate with your own friends at the drop of a hat while putting you down and then blame it all on you. You can very easily find yourself losing the respect of your own friends. Others will buy into their stories because they are THAT good! So BEWARE!

I feel the neccessity to warn the world of these freaks. There are too many deep dark secrets being held out there. Too much damage being done. Too much mystery surrounding their dis-ordered world. Too much embarrassment preventing victims from speaking out. I say fuck that! Shout it out! Our silence only empowers their kind to do that much more damage in our world:






If you are single and searching or perhaps caught up in an awfull relationship that is driving you insane: Make it your New Year's resolution to become educated about Ns. There is plenty to learn here in my Blog along with the WWW and lots of great YT vids. Feel free to leave comments, tips and links.

Thank You,
Chuck Fasst

Friday, December 20, 2013

Murdered: Mary Jane Longo

Take a look at this pic: She Is Missing ... again. Her family will not be celebrating the holidays this year. This is an anniversary of the night her and all of her children's lives were snuffed out by a murdering N in 2001. Although this is a time to celebrate Xmas and ... Birthdays - there are some things that should never be forgotten. Watch this vid and take the time to read my story - it is a long one. http://www.katu.com/news/Words-of-a-Killer-Christian-Longo-writes-about-his-dead-family-165576656.html

Mary Jane Longo

Do Narcissists ever come to a time when they finally face up to the nasty things they do? I explored this in the story I wrote those years ago. Some regard me as some kind of a lunatic as I press on about this Dis-order. Take the time to educate yourself a little bit and then tell me if I am off the mark.
I have never released pages of his writings that I have been holding for 10 years. He sang a different tune back then. In my article I attempt to go into his head and a dark and murky place it is. It is a place you want to get away from as quick as you can! At the end of my story I say that I will write more. I have not done that. I don't know what I will do. Click the link below for the full article:
http://www.lit.org/view/23536

Feel free to SHARE or leave a comment. Read the rest of the blog by clicking HOME below:

OK. Ten years have gone by and due to recent events in my life I find myself back in the world of the Ns. Here is the writing of a Pschopathic killer, Christian Michael Longo, in his own hand. If you can magnify - you can read. It has become faded and my old eyes aren't what they were back then either. This has not been published before. So, for those who are curious here is one page of many.

Saturday, December 14, 2013

Narcissistic Injury

Narcissistic Humiliation and Injury

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Everything you Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html

Narcissists are one-state machines, programmed to extract Narcissistic Supply from others. To do so, they develop early on a set of immutable routines. This propensity for repetition, inability to change and rigidity confine the narcissist, stunt his development, and limit his horizons. Add to this his overpowering sense of entitlement, his visceral fear of failure, and his invariable need to both feel unique and be perceived as such – and one often ends up with a recipe for inaction.

Monday, November 25, 2013

N is for Murder: Articles From The Past on Murdering Narcissists

N is for Murder: Articles From The Past on Murdering Narcissists

It is time to ressurect my articles at Lit.org from ten years ago. At the time, I was writing about murders in the news. What was written then is every bit as relevent then as it is now. The main difference is that there are more Ns in the world now and more people are aware of what NPD is all about. In some of these I attempted to go into the heads of the murdering Ns and try to think like they think but that is a dark place to go. If you can spare the time, give a few of them a read and come back for more. You can sign onto my email list here on this page:
NPD Column: A Man in Love With His Own Image
by
TheSearcher (Member) - published: March 21, 2003
Word Count: 892 Word Bytes: 5200 Viewed: 2990 times
Category - Columns
© Copyright by TheSearcher
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My main reason for publishing these articles is the same now as it was then: to alert the world of the danger of Ns. Some are saying the President of the United States is one! See other posts in my Blog for more on that.

NPD Column: The “N” Nature Of Our Enemy 03/26/03
by
TheSearcher (Member) - published: March 27, 2003
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Category - Columns
© Copyright by TheSearcher



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Most of my friends think I have completely lost my mind. But I know there are many thousands of you out there that think otherwise. Sadly, it seems that you have to have direct contact with these creatures before you can even have an inkling of an idea as to what they are all about.

NPD Column: Saddam & Son's Regime
by
TheSearcher (Member) - published: August 16, 2003
Word Count: 700 Word Bytes: 4209 Viewed: 1674 times
http://www.lit.org/view/5851



Ted Bundy was one of the worst serial killer Ns. Jan. 24, 1989 was his execution in Fla. Now is his 25th. Anniversary. Here is my article from 10 yrs. ago:
This is a piece of fiction I wrote some years ago in attempt to get into the heads of these twisted, murdering freaks and try to learn how they think. A daunting proposition indeed. One needs to keep a close eye on that abyss. Here I tried to re-create his final days of freedom based on the writings of Ann Rule and others. Click below:

http://www.lit.org/view/12902



Friday, December 20, 2013


Murdered: Mary Jane Longo

Take a look at this pic: She Is Missing ... again. Her family will not be celebrating the holidays this year. This is an anniversary of the night her and all of her children's lives were snuffed out by a murdering N in 2001. Although this is a time to celebrate Xmas and ... Birthdays - there are some things that should never be forgotten. Watch this vid and take the time to read my story - it is a long one. http://www.katu.com/news/Words-of-a-Killer-Christian-Longo-writes-about-his-dead-family-165576656.html

Mary Jane Longo

Do Narcissists ever come to a time when they finally face up to the nasty things they do? I explored this in the story I wrote those years ago. Some regard me as some kind of a lunatic as I press on about this Dis-order. Take the time to educate yourself a little bit and then tell me if I am off the mark.
I have never released pages of his writings that I have been holding for 10 years. He sang a different tune back then. In my article I attempt to go into his head and a dark and murky place it is. It is a place you want to get away from as quick as you can! At the end of my story I say that I will write more. I have not done that. I don't know what I will do. Click the link below for the full article:
http://www.lit.org/view/23536

Feel free to SHARE or leave a comment. Read the rest of the blog by clicking HOME below:

OK. Ten years have gone by and due to recent events in my life I find myself back in the world of the Ns. Here is the writing of a Pschopathic killer, Christian Michael Longo, in his own hand. If you can magnify - you can read. It has become faded and my old eyes aren't what they were back then either. This has not been published before. So, for those who are curious here is one page of many.

Saturday, November 23, 2013

Dr. Sam Vaknin & Dr. Phil

A little about Dr. Sam Vaknin and a little about Dr. Phil


I just had to repost this vid from Dr. Sam Vaknin. In it he uses a word that I have used to define the enigma that surrounds the multiple personalities of the Narcissist: "Shapeshifter." This HAS to be THE most difficult aspect of the Narcissist, for people with normal minds to understand. Their uncanny ability to COMPLETELY reshape their persona and leave the other one behind as if it is nothing but a shell - is mind bending for those who are close to them.

https://www.facebook.com/?ref=tn_tnmn#!/photo.php?v=10151686900701504&set=vb.50634038043&type=2&theater

Normal people accept that someone can be either evil or nice but it is difficult for them to grasp that there are those out there who can take the qualities from one end of the spectrum to the other - instantly! We see the Dr. Jekyl and Mr. Hyde personalities played out in the movies but we refuse to accept that it is real even when it is right in front of our face. Why, for one reason - it is scary!

How does Sam know so much about this? He is N. I have been familiar with him for over 10 years. And believe me - he is a Narcissist - one of the few in the world (if not the only) who can speak out with this kind of insight. Why does he do it? Because it feeds him. Read his stuff, he explains why.

There was a recent episode on Dr. Phil. A wife of over 30 yrs. was going out of her mind. Her husband had completely altered his personality after his Dad died. He became evil. And proceeded to do and say things that destroyed everything they ever had. He called it a midlife crisis and claimed he absolutely could not understand why he did all the awful things that he did. She was at her wits end. This behavior was right out of the N's playbook: A Narcissistic injury resulting from the loss of a significant other. I'm not going to explain what that is here. Sam explains that very well in his book.

But I will mention a thought of my own here. In some people there seems to be some kind of a latent Narcissism that lurks deep inside of them (or maybe just under the surface) for most of their lives only to suddenly erupt out of them in force at the passing of a significant other or some designated event occurs. And this is another area that is far too complicated to explain here. And believe me when I say - this reaction has little to do with grief - it is some other power which is yet to be adequately explained by anyone!

Dr. Phil HAS to know of this. And that angle SHOULD have been explored! I am not going to delve into all the particulars of this episode here. I'm sure I won't be the only one speaking out about this. But the bottom line is that Dr. Phil ends up sending the poor wife off to a ninety day program. And doesn't do damned thing for the dude who caused the WHOLE debacle in the first place. He just leaves dude free to cavort around with his new lover while the wifey is off in a program. WTF!

Oh but she is forbidden to have ANY contact with her new lover. NOTE: Upon further review, I will hold my opinion on the results of this episode at this time. On DrPhil.com they are saying that the husband, Danny will also be participating in this program. I guess this is another case of you had to be there.

Here is the link to Dr. Phil  http://www.drphil.com/shows/show/2117

NOTE: I would like to add this quote from Sam to help clarify what he means when he talks of "PNS:" The processes of obtaining, preserving, accumulating and recalling Narcissistic Supply take place in the Pathological Narcissistic Space (PNS). This is an imaginary environment, a comfort zone, invented by the narcissist. It has clear geographical and physical boundaries: a home, a workplace, a neighbourhood, a city, a country.



Monday, December 30, 2013



Narcissists and our Future

Narcissists and our Future

Again Dr. Vaknin delves into the depths of what Narcissism can mean to our society. Straight from the horses mouth. Yes Sam is an N. But not unlike all other Ns - he speaks to us from his mind. And his mind works a little differently from the rest of ours. Sometimes that can be very enlightening. so, here is my question: What kind of a future does humanity have?

http://youtu.be/xNwJ6tdGzsA

To see more earlier articles in this Blog, click "2013" under the Archives over on the right.



Saturday, December 14, 2013


Narcissistic Injury

Narcissistic Humiliation and Injury

https://www.facebook.com/#!/photo.php?v=10152078958833044&set=vb.50634038043&type=2&theater


Everything you Need to Know about Narcissists, Psychopaths, and Abuse - click on this link: http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq1.html

Narcissists are one-state machines, programmed to extract Narcissistic Supply from others. To do so, they develop early on a set of immutable routines. This propensity for repetition, inability to change and rigidity confine the narcissist, stunt his development, and limit his horizons. Add to this his overpowering sense of entitlement, his visceral fear of failure, and his invariable need to both feel unique and be perceived as such – and one often ends up with a recipe for inaction.



The N-World ... BEWARE


 The N-World

I am posting another one of Sam Vaknin's links here because he says it so well. Most regular people cannot understand the stuff he writes but I get it pretty good. Of course his info is coming straight from the horse's mouth shall we say. After all he is most certainly the first authority on the subject of Ns. Given there are all kinds of Ns in the World. But pretty much ALL of them share a certain subset of personality characteristics. That is of course, the reason for the label of NPD.

Here Sam speaks of the place I call the "N-World" that special little place where all "N-Victims" are dragged, kicking and screaming, into.


 http://.www.N-Searcher.blogspot.com




Tuesday, November 19, 2013

The N-World ... BEWARE

 The N-World

I am posting another one of Sam Vaknin's links here because he says it so well. Most regular people cannot understand the stuff he writes but I get it pretty good. Of course his info is coming straight from the horse's mouth shall we say. After all he is most certainly the first authority on the subject of Ns. Given there are all kinds of Ns in the World. But pretty much ALL of them share a certain subset of personality characteristics. That is of course, the reason for the label of NPD.

Here Sam speaks of the place I call the "N-World" that special little place where all "N-Victims" are dragged, kicking and screaming, into.


 http://.www.N-Searcher.blogspot.com

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

What is Narcissism?


http://youtu.be/FFgoGtt7wu4




https://www.facebook.com/groups/npdsurvivors/permalink/10153506210350413/


This  vid is a bit clinical but it conveys a decent depiction of the Narcissistic Personality Disorder. However there has been an additional survey of 35,000 done recently. Ns comprising 1 % of the U.S. Population has since increased to 6%! Rattle that around in your brain for awhile. Is that something like a 600% increase??? Are Ns increasing exponentially in our population?.

Veteran's Day: What Does It Mean To Serve

 

VETERANS: What Does It Mean To Serve  In This Day And Age?            2013


Now there is a question that can be a real conundrum for me depending upon the mood I am in. In the present day, we have the NSA tapping into our phones, social media and spying on all of our allies around the world. We have security cameras everywhere monitoring our comings and goings. We have drones under development that will be able to fly right through our open front doors in the coming years. I don’t know how many others have been following this but in the military news we have two Admirals and the Director of the National Intelligence Agency being relieved of their duties in a scandal in Singapore involving corruption and prostitution. We have a long list of naval commanders who have been relieved of their commands for doing some of the most outrageous things that would drop most people’s jaws.

On the larger front we find ourselves facing an enemy that raises the bar on Malignant Narcissism to new heights. They could care less if they annihilate the entire world and everything on it, all in the name of their God. When it comes time for battle, these cowardly foes will hide behind or sacrifice every innocent man woman and child they can find. Most Americans want nothing to do with any of this – it is so awful! But they are there all the same – on any given day and on a new day… They can be here! This much we have learned.

And what about the US government these days? Narcissists do not play well in the same sandbox and there are far too many of these types in our government. They are gutting the U.S. Constitution along with the American public. I don’t give a damn about party lines. There is No Way, Congress can come to any kind of lasting consensus when there are so many more individuals pulling for their own self-centered agendas. So we have the United States government hobbling along, held together with Band-Aids.

As I sit here alone at a Red Robin, partaking of a free hamburger, I try to reflect on what it means to serve one’s country. All this attention being paid to Veterans Day is a recent phenomenon. I’m no war hero. I didn’t go “in country” during Vietnam, I served my time at sea on ships. When we came back, it was not even cool to be us. We melted into society as quickly and as quietly as possible. And that was that.

Now, we have all these celebrations and free meals. So I usually try to partake in that and think about duty, honor, integrity and stuff like that – not so easy for me to do nowadays. I look around me these days and I don’t see much of any of that anymore. Those who do try to stand up for the right things will often find themselves vilified and ostracized. Oh there are still plenty of people around who know what those words mean. I guess sometimes it is all about the company one keeps.

I look around me and I see a new generation – a digital generation, young people raised up with a gadget in their hands. A generation of people who have “cyber relations”. They make love to a person without ever even seeing them. They do not even have the desire to fuck anymore– or even drive a car. What does all this mean? Hell if I know? Is this what I served my country for? Hell if I know?

There is a new Portland War Memorial being built which harkens back to a rapidly disappearing generation of people who pulled together across an entire nation. They did what absolutely had to be done to save our country and the better part of the rest of the world from a horrific enemy. Like one WWII war veteran said – otherwise all of us would be speaking German right now. It won’t be long before the very last WWII war vet is gone. And with that, I fear will disappear the last vestige of a certain part of the human spirit that the coming generations will never even be able to comprehend.

I kind of liked one post I saw put up on Facebook by Mike Smart that had to do with what it means to be a Vet. It goes something to the effect that you sign an open check to Uncle Sam - payable with your life. As this ever increasing malaise of narcissism spreads across this digital generation of automatons that we are breeding takes hold – how many of them will we be able to count on to step up and put their names on the line? Another scary thought – how many more of them can we expect to worm their way into positions of power in the government, big business, Hollywood, religion and indeed our military?

And I am certainly not about to let my own generation off the hook. We survived but we certainly did not get everything right. There are plenty of us that completely missed the boat when it comes to stuff like integrity and honesty and stuff like that. There are women running around who will fuck any man they feel like whenever the whim strikes them. if a man comes their way bearing tidings of love they will destroy that and go fuck the man’s friends and then manage to turn him into the villain as they cut his heart out, make it into sliced salami which they then proceed to feed back to him through the gaping hole. Such are the uncanny powers of these creatures. And they are way too damned old to be doing deeds like this - but they do it anyway! Hah, maybe the new generation of automatons will take care of THAT behavior! Sorry if I offend anyone, what I write here is not meant to make anyone happy – it‘s just to say what it is. Where do these freaks of nature come from – broken families, bad parenting, genetics? Hell, I don’t know!

But they can’t hold a candle to their male counterparts who are all over the place. What I am describing here is the changing of the tides in modern-day society. Wouldn’t it be fantastic if all of these narcissistic types I have been describing here were able to put more effort into not destroying those who love and trust in them and instead put more work into the survival of our species?

So, did I serve my country for all of this? I dunno, I guess so. Am I proud of it? Uh, well maybe I’m again more interested in saving my own ass for the few measly years my old ass might have left. But If the opportunity came along to unleash a can of wakeup-ass in the halls of Congress - I believe I would want to take that and run with it.

In closing I should at least mention our most formidable enemy. That is Mother Earth. Why would I say that? After all isn’t Mother Earth supposed to be the one who sustains us. As humans, our so-called, right to life and all of our gods don’t mean shit to Mother Earth and the forces beyond. The human race has not treated her so nicely and she is rebelling against us. Will humans ever get to the point to where we can slow down the destruction of one another before we end up destroying the planet that sustains us?

Don’t worry – be happy. It’s a nice concept but it’s time has passed. It is coming up close to the time to where all the Sheople might want to start thinking about who’s gonna save their asses when the shit hits the fan. If us humans don’t get our shit together, all this other stuff I’ve been harping about in this diatribe won’t mean shit anyway.
‘nuff said



While we are ranting here, this is another post from last year. When you get a bunch of F******d uu Narcissists in Government - crazy shit like this happens. In the military, we referred to this sort of thing as FUBAR:


In a message dated 9/12/2014 4:59:40 P.M. Pacific Daylight Time, racemup321@aol.com writes:


Sometimes death doesn't look all that bad to some of us. Sometimes Vets who are terribly injured kill themselves .I am going to rant about this other thing. A few years ago I was a US Merchant Marine. I went on a secret mission on a US Navy ship, one of the fastest on the sea. Our mission was to deliver a load of MRAPS to the Persian Gulf. If you do not know what I an MRAP is - look it up. These fighting vehicles had just been built and were designed to protect our fighting men and women from all of those devastating IEDs that were blowing them apart over in Iraq. This mission would take us around the world.
At the time I was proud to serve our fighting forces in this manner. The idea was to reduce the killing and maiming. And here we are today, those MRAPS have come back to this country and whoever the idiot sticks are in our government have busied themselves distributing them to cops all across the country. Hundreds and hundreds of them are now in cities from coast to coast.
We had underwent an important and hazardous mission through the Persian Gulf and then the Pirates in the Indian Ocean and Gulf of Aden. Yes, you may have seen the movie. I was also on a Maersk ship. At one time I took pride in the importance of it but no longer. I don't know who these complete idiots are in the Pentagon that have allowed this to happen. What are all of these police agencies going to use these MRAPS for? We already know what they are being used for and what on earth do police agencies all across this nation need with thousands and thousands of bayonets. These f****** idiots who are in charge of this program have distributed 12,000 bayonats to police agencies everywhere. What are our police forces going to be using all of this for?

Now senators are aware of this and are conducting an inquiry. But why in the hell would this ever be allowed to happen in the first place? There used to be a time when the police were servants of the public. Now they have become the lackeys of Big Brother and it makes me sick.

It is because of many of these idiots up there (and a whole lot of other damned good reasons) who are calling the shots and wield so much power over all of us, that I have lost complete faith in my government and I am ashamed for the faith I once had in it.


After talking to this one young Vet the other night it is clear that many of them know a lot more about what is happening over there than any of us will ever know. When they come back many of them are carrying a lot of weight on their shoulders just because of the knowledge that they have. I dare say, the kind of knowledge that young Americans should not have to deal with. And they should not be dying over here in our f***** up country in greater numbers than they are dying over on foreign soils. Vets are dying of suicide every single day in this country!
So there you have it.
I made some vids while I was over there. For those who may be interested, here is one:



Sent from my Verizon Wireless 4G LTE Smartphone


The Following is just a little of this and that:


Jus' Sayin'      https://www.facebook.com/MagnetForTheMildlyDeranged/photos/a.168775193329933.1073741832.160383234169129/322738704600247/?type=1&theater


  Here is a big long article for you:
http://www.catholiceducation.org/articles/religion/re0933.htm


Nice long interview here:

http://youtu.be/7sDj--QEbys

Wednesday, October 30, 2013

Narcissists love blabbers

In the beginning the N will butter you up. Then they will proceed to fill you full of fake garbage!

They will mine the deepest depths of your heart and soul - Then use that intel to destroy your heart and soul, if they can.






WARNING to all Singles Out There

WARNING: Fortunately most folks don't need to see this however there are many singles, no matter what age, who owe it to themselves to at least be aware that these creatures are out there. Not only can they slice your heart and soul into ribbons but they can really ruin your life in a number of ways that you would not expect. Now be advised that there are some of these freaks that can take yourentire life. And these might often be the ones that you would least expect. This is no joke - we see this played out in all these crime movies, psychological thrillers and dramas all the time and that stuff is the real deal!

These CGI figures in this short vid may seem somewhat funny looking and cartoonish. People who produce stuff like this generally have a good reason to remain unseen. But the message they send is most assuredly, REAL.

The sad part is that most people who need to see this kind of stuff - never see it. They will keep their heads buried in the sands of ignorance. Such is life. But if you know of someone who needs to become more educated on this material then, by all means, SHARE this link to the Vid above:
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Raving on the Internet: Sometimes the rage of it all becomes overwhelming and spills out onto the Internet. Here we have a typical example of many that can be found over at AnUpturnedSoul's blogsite
The Path of the Narcopath
"Path" way. Well that certainly is a new connotation on an old word. Yet again ... never would have thought of that one. Twilight Zone however, oh yes that is familiar. That is the living hell that has defined my life for the past couple of years. Dealing with a whole set of other monsters that were drawn into the scene and continue to ruin what is left of my life long after she is gone - the long arm of the law along with all the corruption anyone could ever imagine. I have not seen hide nor hair of the N since the night she went out of her mind and there was nothing but fire in her eyes and a Narcissistic rage. Until last night that is .... She has emerged from her hole. She is done ruining the former friend of mine who is actually one of the lamest pothead, stoner dudes I've ever known. Dumb and boring as a rock. Nothing at all like her - but Narcissists are not particular, we all know this.
Oh yeah, a huge knockout, drag down fight earlier in the evening. She has wasted another couple of years and wrecked another man. I was warned of the breakup. Doesn't take her long to recover. After close to 2 yrs of not seeing this witch even once ... now she is back out in the club amongst the humans who once knew us as a couple. It has only taken her a couple of hours to get back in action. She's on her feet, standing up in front of everyone, her wicked ass swaying to the beat of the music like old glory. The single guys - all the same dudes that we knew as a couple are gathering around the fresh meat. Forming a barrier around her. I am out and they are in.
She senses my prescence and turns around, for a moment our eyes lock. A hint of a smile curls up from one corner and she turns back. I know what look was on my face - the same look everyone has been seeing for two years. I have not touched a woman since. Hell, I don't even know what to do with one anymore. No decent one wants to be with one who is as damaged as me and that's a fact that needs no explanation. I go to my friend and tell him to not let me say one word to that slut. If he sees me anywhere near her, he is to come pull me away ... I have too much to lose - I know what that thing is capable of.
 Which one will be the lucky one, for she will fuck another one soon and bring him back into the turmoil left behind just a few hours earlier. Yes, she will make that last dummy suffer much more through ths triangulation. When you are a drama queen it is always funner to drag another man into the relationship and let them have at it while playing little miss innocent. The covert N you spoke of .... oh, they are very, VERY good at it  :-(  That was done to me twice by her. The last one had been a friend from my old car racing days. Now a few months short of two years later - her and that schmuck are going at it. I'm sure that rube has been suffering plenty for the last year! Here we all are in our 50s and well, now .... 60 for me - and this kind of crackhead lunacy is going on? Honor, integrity or any kind of ethics? Nope, no sign of any of that!
God knows I've been wallowing around in this twilight zone long enough. The one that came before twelve years ago should have prepared me for this one. Yes I have had two Ns ruin me. I have no excuse.  I looked up "Evil" and was surprised to see that it includes bad luck, because that sure as hell came my way in the form of the long arm of the law. Never drive from a bar in a strange town after midnight. I know things are  going to get worse for me.

She is livin' the life, out searching new sources of supply. Gonna make a new start yet again just as she has done before and before and many times before. She will bring a new victim in and morph into the personality she needs to get the job done. And all will be as it is meant to be. Me - I continue to carry a kind of rage I never could have imagined. My life remains desperate from day to day. The so-called authorities are just a step away. I am not allowed many normal things the rest of us take for granted. My freedom as a U.S. citizen (and Veteran) has been restricted down to almost nothing. The threat of dire punishments are held over my head. Can't go into all of that. What did I do to deserve all of this. I never broke the law. I just continued to try to hold onto a Narcissist longer than I should have. I knew better and I was even warned. But you know how it can be. They come with a high price tag. Eventually  the time comes you realize you were sold nothing but a bag of rancid garbage all wrapped up in a pretty container. I only hope that someday someone will throw that garbage out with the trash ... and it will be done.


These links can be found over at the   AnUpturnedSoul's blogsite:


If you would like to know more about Narcissistic Personality Disorder please visit:
Out of the Fog – Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) – an excellent resource for information on NPD. There is also a forum.
The Narcissistic Continuum –  There is also a forum, for those seeking support, advice and information.
Let Me Reach with Kim Saeed – An inspirational blog about NPD and how to heal and empower yourself.
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NPD Recovery – also check out her Youtube – NPDRecovery Youtube
Surviving the Narcissistic Parent: ACoNs (Adult Children os Narcissists  – a superb account of what it is like to be the child of a narcissistic mother, also applies to a narcissistic father.
Selfishness and Narcissism in Family Relationships & The Drama Triangle by Dr. Lynne Namka – different ways to view and understand the effects of growing up with a narcissist, being in a narcissistic (abusive/unhealthy) family or in a relationship with a narcissist.
Worth reading if you’re thinking of telling a narcissist that they have NPD:
Narcissists in Fiction:
Honest Science vs. False Friend: A Contrast Study of Temperance Brennan and Angela Montenegro  – This is an interesting post examining two characters on a popular TV show (the Narcissist as a TV & film trope is very common), one of which could be perceived as being a Narcissist but isn’t, the other is a Narcissist but may not be perceived as one (because Narcissists are focused on how others perceive them thus they are better able to manipulate their image and control how others view them). Like the person who wrote this, I find the character of Angela Montenegro intensely annoying and distressing (I have been known to shout at the TV when watching this show when her character appears and does her ‘thing’) because she is very narcissistic yet gets away with it, everyone makes excuses for her (including the resident psychologist who is supposed to be very clever) and thinks she’s lovely, very ‘empathic’. Episode 6, season 5 was particularly explicit in showing Angela’s Narcissism and I got intensely angry about how it was handled). This episode reminded me of CZBZ of The Narcissistic Continuum’s post of Puppygate – Part Two Online Narcissists: A case study called PuppyGate.
A couple of related posts:
An insightful guest post about NPD:
Around 12 - 14 yrs ago when I had my first goround with the N-World. I was online everyday day with a diverse assortment of posters from all around the world. That was Sam's old Suite 101 forum. Times were different then. There was very little of that tribal knowledge out there. That site was a gold mine. I have info filed away from that site that would be very enlightening to people now. I hope to get to a point where I can share it one day. But we could always tell when an N came into the picture. They had a distinctive way of writing - kind of disjointed using words that might be slighly altered in their spelling or using words that were not quite appropriate for the sentence. And of course their train of thought was off. Maybe nowadays they have become more sophisticated in their writing abilities.
My last N could write well enough. She was plenty smart like they all are. But during the tense times (you know, once the devaluation set in after about a year)- we absolutely could not communicate with emails. She read in different and negative meanings to everything I tried to say to her. I finally had to tell her this would have to stop. We would have to communicate by voice. But it is like you say - They all think that our thinking is as twisted as theirs. They only have themselves as a frame of reference.

When I first met my N. I was very surprised to learn she had intimate knowledge of Narcissism. She had gone into therapy with a women who determined that her boyfriend at the time was a N. I thought Wow. Holy shit! Here we were, 2 N-survivors brought together by some divine force. Hahaha OMG. She would go on to talk of others who were N according to her. I will never forget the horror of finally realizing 2 yrs in ... finally admitting to myself that it was time to call an N an N. Yep she didn't like that ... But I continued to hang in there with her ... hoping for a miracle I guess. I would accept a certain level of abuse in order to save our valuable relationship and partnership in life. But of course she just escalated the abuse.  After all with all the damage she had done, how could she do any worse? Hah! She would go on to do such horrible things that I'm damaged permanently. Then I would get schooled on true wickedness and downright evil. We are well into our 50's. Getting pretty late to start all over in life. What a waste of life.


WARNING to all Singles Out There

WARNING: Fortunately most folks don't need to see this however there are many singles, no matter what age, who owe it to themselves to at least be aware that these creatures are out there. Not only can they slice your heart and soul into ribbons but they can really ruin your life in a number of ways that you would not expect. Now be advised that there are some of these freaks that can take your entire life. And these might often be the ones that you would least expect. This is no joke - we see this played out in all these crime movies, psychological thrillers and dramas all the time and that stuff is the real deal!

These CGI figures in this short vid may seem somewhat funny looking and cartoonish. People who produce stuff like this generally have a good reason to remain unseen. But the message they send is most assuredly, REAL.

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Maybe Beautiful on the Outside - But a Monster Dwells Within!

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 Narcissism is among us - and it is on the increase. 

The rate is alarming, especially among young females in the U.S. The latest sample of 35,000 in the U.S. set the rate at 6%. Narcissists are rising in power with  increasing numbers in Politics, Big Business, Religions and Entertainment. This is serious stuff people!

The culture of Narcissism can take over an entire Nation. Consider Nazi Germany or Iraq. Many are saying that the leader of the U.S. is a Narcissist! Many are saying that the worldwide spread of Narcissism presents the greatest threat of all to to the survival of the human genome! How can that be you ask.? One reason is that Narcissism is the dark secret that few understand or even want to understand.

Understand it!

Narcissism and Politics
In today’s political climate, I think even the “average” American can see the disproportionate numbers of narcissistic people in the political arena…even if they don’t “know” all the details and definitions of narcissism, they recognize the bad behavior.  Since we ALL have a bit of narcissism in us (called “healthy” and a sense of self by some), we all recognize when someone else has gone waaaay past normal…”self will running riot” is one way many of today’s politicians can be described.
Unfortunately, most “average Americans” can only see it AFTER the narcissist has been elected and starts doing things that make our jaws drop.
I just read part of an article which rather annoyed me because the author basically says that being IN politics, and having power and privilege, is WHY politicians “turn into narcissists.”  I completely disagree…I say the politicians ARE narcissists who clawed their way up the ladder because the political arena is the PERFECT place for narcissists to get away with their crap (and they enjoy stomping on others as they climb the ladder.)
Narcissistic Personality Disorder develops in early, early childhood (before the age of 6) so it’s illogical to say someone can be “made” a narcissist later in life.  Oh, people can certainly become liars, greedy, power mad and the like but true narcissists are created very young.  By the time they reach the age to run for politics, they are already very astute at game playing and they tell slick lies and manipulate others without batting an eye or breaking a sweat.
Speeches are easy, written by others (who actually ARE talented and good at their jobs) and those speeches make narcs look even better (narcissistic politicans are very thankful for teleprompters.)  Better yet, giving speeches means there is NO real interaction with the people listening to the flowery phrases and grandiose promises.  The audiences just listen, cheer and applaud.  For a narcissist, each speech is a shining opportunity for them…they get to lie, they get to hear the adulation and applause they crave, they don’t get questioned or busted on their bullsh*t and they are the center of attention.  Doesn’t get much better for ‘em, no sirree bob.
Makes their hard, cold, empty hearts flutter and swell with a sick version of what the rest of us call “pride.”  MOST people are proud of their accomplishments…narcissists are proud to exist and proud of their ability to fool “most of the people most of the time.”  Sick.
And worse, once they fool enough people and get elected, they get into office and proceed to break all those promises and refuse to be held accountable for anything they do.  And they all know it so politicians are known for not reigning in other politicians…they don’t want things to change.  Of course ALL politicians aren’t narcissistic but the arena has way too many and they’re like cockroaches…everywhere, hard to get rid of, they scatter when the lights come on and they can survive just about everything designed to stop them…including laws, public opinion and that pesky Constitution.
And our government is FULL of them…and the dismal state of American politics, our economy and the way that the public is manipulated into hatred, blaming and frustration as a result of these twisted people is abundantly clear to everyone not living under a rock.
From the Definition of Narcissism page:  “Although individuals with NPD are often ambitious and capable, the inability to tolerate setbacks, disagreements or criticism, along with lack of empathy, make it difficult for such individuals to work cooperatively with others or to maintain long-term professional achievements.
“With narcissistic personality disorder, the individual’s self-perceived fantastic grandiosity, often coupled with a hypomanic mood, is typically not commensurate with his or her real accomplishments.
“The exploitativeness, sense of entitlement, lack of empathy, disregard for others, and constant need for attention inherent in NPD adversely affect interpersonal relationships.”






      Most people's knowledge of Narcissism is limited to the idea of someone                          admiring their reflection ...     DON'T YOU BELIEVE IT!


 Mythology of Narcissim Pic

    It is commonly acknowledged that Narcicissim sets in, in early childhood,                                               generally around the age of 6.

                                                 Little Girl Becomes N



                                This is where it all starts ... In The Brain

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Description and attributions

This is a pictorial deconstruction of a little known personality Dis-order. This is a little known, deep dark secret within society. Within the last decade we hear Narcissism mentioned much more often than ever before. True crime and fictional crime shows mention it. Court shows include the diagnosis often.

But this is only really, well known by those who got schooled in it through  direct contact or those within the Mental Health industry who have made a point of investigating it. This is definitely a subject that resonates within these people.

This presentation could be compared to the styleframes utilized by movie makers. If one were to decide to make a movie of this (which would be a spine chilling thriller), this could be utilized as the foundation of their movie script.

This is real, it is in our World and it is growing at an accelerated pace, like a cancer within societies all across the globe.